“When you feel lonely, ask the feeling what it is trying to tell you?” – Sivan Garr
Loneliness has been my biggest struggle in life. My fear of facing the feeling drove me to all sorts of distractions both healthy and, more frequently, not so.
It wasn’t until my friend suggested I stop running away when I feel lonely that I realized just how far I go to avoid the feeling.
Once I stopped running, loneliness hit me like a falling brick wall.
I found I could only bear the feeling for a short time and then I had to find something to distract me: netflix, chocolate, more coffee…!
But over time, I had enough strength to develop a relationship with loneliness. It had a voice, and it had so much to say!
I can’t say I’m free from feeling lonely, but I can say I no longer try to be. I accept the feeling as a member of my “feeling’s committee” with equal right to sit at the table and share its message.
What would it be like to stop running away from feeling lonely?
What causes it to come up?
What does it have to say?